2016 SWA Nomination Submitted by Rasheeda Cole of Herndon, Va
Please tell us about your nominee and what makes her a Supreme Woman.
I nominate my lovely mother and best friend, Monique Renee Moore for the Supreme Woman Award. It’s difficult to put all she is to me into words, but it’s worth a try. My mother had me when she was in high school, 3 weeks after her 18th birthday. Prior to my birth, she left 12th grade to work full time and to get an apartment for us to live in. She had to leave her father's house if she was going to keep her baby, and she chose to keep me. She faced many challenges as a young single woman with a baby. She worked full time, took care of me on her own and got her GED since she didn't finish school.
My dad was in my life but my mom raised me on her own. She didn’t worry about, nor did she stress over getting help to support me; she just continued to do the best that she could. Naturally there were struggles in our lives but I’d rather focus on how she survived; how she never gave up on herself and never settled for less. How she worked hard, loved hard and sacrificed – not just fo. How she literally fell to the bottom, pulled herself right back up and far exceeded any goal she could’ve ever set despite the odds.
My mom’s life and home has never been her own. She’s always giving and shared all of herself – even to a fault. And in the midst of all this – she is flawless from head to toe. No one has ever seen her sweat. My mother did all this without having an example to follow. She lost her mom when she was 13 years old. No matter where I have gone in life and what I have done – I’ve always known that I could go home and lay my head in my mother’s lap to ease any pain. There is no love and safety like a mother’s love. But, she did not have that – everything that she gave and showed me was nearly from scratch. She could not afford to fail because there was no safety blanket for her – I can’t even imagine what that has been like for her. I’ll never know that feeling because she’s been there for me at every single twist and turn. She’s been in the trenches with me and her love is unwavering.
Now, we’re here in 2016 and I have my own baby girl. I have been gifted with the opportunity to watch two of the most important people in my life bond. My daughter, Tali, and my mother are best friends, too. It’s the most beautiful blessing I could ask for. Not only is my mother a part of my village and support system, but what she adds to my daughter’s life makes me so emotional. I never knew what I was missing not having met my grandmother, but when I see these two together, it melts my heart. My little girl is so confident and happy because she has a grandmother that she will tell you in a heartbeat loves her. She knows it, she feels it and she relies on it. My mom deserves it because she spreads love wherever she goes. Monique Renee Moore, is the epitome of the Supreme Woman and if you met her, you would feel that too. But, no matter what happens – she’ll always be supreme to me.
She went from part-time office assistant to an IT Consultant and business owner. She has an entertainment promotion business; she has a business that supports the mentally ill and their caregivers; and she’s involved in a few other endeavors. She loves people and people love her.
She took in her newborn niece and raised her as her own child. She spent countless years, every single weekend for more than 9 years at soccer games both local and away, through rain, cold, heat, and more to support that niece in her soccer career and she was phenomenal. She had no holidays and no 3-day weekends for 9 years! She sent me to college and felt completely frustrated and angry when she could not get the funding to keep me there. This still haunts her, though I know she is extremely excited and proud that I found a place in the banking business that has been good to me. Currently, my mom is in counseling on a mission to be the best Monique she can be. She's not halfway doing it either -- she's gone all in. She attends some type of counseling and support group 4 times a week. I'm very proud of her because we can SEE the work she's putting in based on her new approach at several things in her life. The mindfulness and awareness she exhibit is beautiful to see and she is sharing lessons learned with others who can benefit. She campaigns and raises awareness around depression and mental illness. She has created opportunities to assist people with mental illness to obtain their social security and other benefits.
My mom will turn 50 years old this year; she is doing yoga, running, and getting in physical and mental shape. It seems like so much to do at one time, but that's my mom, she's all IN! She's focused and she is going to be even more awesome! It's a new phase in life she's entering and she will be ready to overwhelm us in her next phase too -- I can't wait to see what this Supreme Woman will do next